The War on Terror

“The War on Terror,” is a 2001 phrase coined by the then President George W. Bush. However I’m not referring to that war but rather the war that may or may not be going on in our home. What is your spouse afraid of? We all have three core longings that look to be fed [...]

Is your spouse faking it? … Maybe you should too!

I don’t know if your life is anything like mine but my life is FULL! . . . full of committments, full of emotions, full of life, full of busy-ness, full of “headaches” and one thing I’ve been able to do most of the time is I fake it! That’s right … And I bet [...]

Has your spouse ever made you feel like a heel?

Has your spouse ever made you feel like a heel? I’m not talking about something that they do that’s their fault but rather they confront you about something that you’ve done…where you’re the jerk? So really THEY aren’t making you feel like a heel, it’s really your own fault.  Well that has been my lot [...]

Lucky

I am such a lucky guy … I know it’s been a while since posting anything of this sort, but sometimes I am just so overwhelmed with sheer awe at the very fact that I am married to the most awesome (awe-inspiring, jaw-dropping, amazing) lady I have ever seen, met, wanted to meet, or known.  [...]

Who…ME!?

Sitting in the van today, a question came to mind that I thought I’d pass along to you. If I were married to me, would I be satisfied, pleased, frustrated, ready to scream, etc.? Would I have asked me to marry me? Would I have said “yes” to me? Would I want to be married [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #7

If you’ve followed from the beginning of this series through to this point, I want to offer you a challenge.  Here’s what I’d like you to do…please…for me?  Please?  I want you to (you, need you to) talk with your sweetie; communicate with them on a sub-atomic level.  In a conversation (NOT when emotions are [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #6

Affect communication?  You betcha…and in a bad way!!  The problem is, there’s this unknown distortion going on…behind your, or your spouses, ears.  Once one of you is attacked or broadsided by a previous scenario, you are mentally handcuffed, unable to process your feelings (let alone explain the emotional turmoil going on inside).  Those neglected hurts [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #5

Culture and experience can lead to some pretty amazingly different understandings.  An example: Let’s pretend that she was told repeatedly by her parents that she was just a “silly little girl” in a condescending and devaluing manner.  Then one day her husband says that she’s acting “silly.”  Because of the negative culture she grew up [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #4

Just like the North and South examples clearly showed (maybe exaggeratedly, maybe not) a large disparity between how one speaks “English” and how another might speak “English.”  Brides and Grooms are the same way…same words…different meanings.  Why, well, some of it’s sexually oriented (no, not coital but gender oriented).  For instance, if a wife said [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #3

Okay, now for a little taste of my years living and yes traveling in the North.  This example is so very accurate for those that have been my neighbors for so many years.  The weather is the first thing that just about everyone brings up.  So without further adieu: Uff-da, it’s gettin’ chilly, gotta take [...]