Is your spouse faking it? … Maybe you should too!

I don’t know if your life is anything like mine but my life is FULL! . . . full of committments, full of emotions, full of life, full of busy-ness, full of “headaches” and one thing I’ve been able to do most of the time is I fake it! That’s right … And I bet [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #7

If you’ve followed from the beginning of this series through to this point, I want to offer you a challenge.  Here’s what I’d like you to do…please…for me?  Please?  I want you to (you, need you to) talk with your sweetie; communicate with them on a sub-atomic level.  In a conversation (NOT when emotions are [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #6

Affect communication?  You betcha…and in a bad way!!  The problem is, there’s this unknown distortion going on…behind your, or your spouses, ears.  Once one of you is attacked or broadsided by a previous scenario, you are mentally handcuffed, unable to process your feelings (let alone explain the emotional turmoil going on inside).  Those neglected hurts [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #5

Culture and experience can lead to some pretty amazingly different understandings.  An example: Let’s pretend that she was told repeatedly by her parents that she was just a “silly little girl” in a condescending and devaluing manner.  Then one day her husband says that she’s acting “silly.”  Because of the negative culture she grew up [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #4

Just like the North and South examples clearly showed (maybe exaggeratedly, maybe not) a large disparity between how one speaks “English” and how another might speak “English.”  Brides and Grooms are the same way…same words…different meanings.  Why, well, some of it’s sexually oriented (no, not coital but gender oriented).  For instance, if a wife said [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #3

Okay, now for a little taste of my years living and yes traveling in the North.  This example is so very accurate for those that have been my neighbors for so many years.  The weather is the first thing that just about everyone brings up.  So without further adieu: Uff-da, it’s gettin’ chilly, gotta take [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #2

In my years of living and traveling in and through the South, this sort of conversation, even a simple topic of hunting, could be heard (keep in mind that each “word” would take about 1.3 seconds to pronounce). I’m raught beholden to ya fir loanin’ me zat thar huntin’ dawg.  We shore-nuff had a lotta [...]

Whatcha Sayin’? #1

Language is everything … well almost.  Language, or communication rather, is probably one of the longest know components of our universe…besides God.  God communicated his desires/thoughts and they became a reality as he created the universe.  Do you ever feel like you try to communicate something to your spouse and they just don’t seem to [...]

Not Just Playin’ Dress Up

Last time I mentioned going-out-on-the-town.  I’m not talking about taking your precious to the local family restaurant for the nightly special…I’m talking about letting your precious know how precious they are by the way you dress, the way you walk, talk, and how you treat them in general.  For me, dressing up makes me feel [...]

New times…New Year…new you!

That’s right a new time is here (if you haven’t heard). Can you think of a better time to do something new…new with your sweetums…new in general??? I’m not talking about buying a new pillow or swapping out the sheets. I’m talking about making a time for you and your sweetie to experience a “new…” [...]